And you have lived this way following exactly these rules ever since, probably never even questioning that life could be lived another way - a better way, under a different set of rules just like when you were a child. A struggle to protect yourself from pain and harm. In an instant, your childhood innocence and unbridled enthusiasm were ripped away as harshly as a band-aid. Life was no longer a game, it was rather an endless struggle. That’s the only way to live your life, and that’s the way you must now live your life from this moment moving forward. You were told that your actions have negative consequences that you need to protect yourself from pain that you must hold on tight to the things you have, and that you must follow the universally accepted rules that everybody else has grown up with. You were told that life isn’t a game and that you must take things more seriously. Everything you did was injected with a little fun and excitement - that was up until the moment someone told you to “grow up” suddenly changing all your rules for how life should be played. Think back to the youthful innocence and enthusiasm that you brought forth into every activity. Back then you treated everything as a game. Think back for a moment to your childhood. These people are living by a set of habitual rules that have been conditioned into them over a lifetime of experience. And instead of helping them get more out of life, these rules are preventing them from moving forward. When things get out of control they feel overwhelmed when they lose something they start to panic when they face a problem they can’t solve they get frustrated when someone disagrees with them they get angry when they encounter an unfamiliar situation they succumb to their fears, and so forth. It’s unfortunate that most people live life too seriously. Or to put it another way, these rules we live by don’t allow us to live life the way it was meant to be lived: AS A GAME! They just don’t allow us the freedom to experiment, to fail, to make mistakes and to wholeheartedly enjoy this process. The reason why so many of us go wrong and don’t end up attaining our desired goals and objectives is that our rules are too constrictive. One that is missing the things we want most out of life. Yes, we all have good intentions and honorable hopes, dreams, and goals for the future, however, the rules by which we live our lives, unfortunately, won’t allow us to realize our desired destination. We are living our lives in accordance with a very specific set of habitual rules that might not be serving our greater good. The honest truth is that many of us are living on autopilot. And now this conditioned way of looking and responding to life events and circumstances is shaping our future, whether we like it or not. At one point or another, we made that conscious (or maybe unconscious) choice and have consequently accepted to live and perceive life a very specific way. We have been willing participants and have accepted things to be one way over another way.
However, we have also played our part in this conditioning process. These rules have been conditioned into our psyche over the course of a lifetime by others and by society in general. Every day of our lives we live in accordance with these rules without ever questioning them.
These rules are reflected in our values, beliefs, convictions, and in our personal standards. I’m specifically referring to the set of rules that go deep into the unconscious. But I’m of course not talking about laws created by governments and institutions. These rules govern how they live their life day-to-day. Either way, they make a life following a certain set or conscious and often unconscious directives that shape their choices, decisions, and actions each and every day.Īll these people, just like you and me, live according to a set of rules. Well, okay… maybe partly on their terms and partly following the terms set by other people and society. We are beginners learning to live in a world that other people have created over the course of human history. Within this world, people live life on their terms. We come into this world not knowing nor understanding what life has installed for us. And then you have to play better than anyone else. – Albert Einstein The Rules that Govern Our Lives
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